What are you doing here? Your life must be about perfect right now, isn’t it?
Almost eight years ago my ex and I separated. We walked into the courthouse together, each paying 1/2 of the filing fee, smiled and walked away friends. Every debt, every asset, and even the custody arrangement was worked out.
Within months we’re shelling out thousands of dollars to attorneys, and then shit really hit the fan! “He said”, “She said”, the “house is mine and not yours”, “you get what I give you and that’s final”. It was a crappy time for sure.
And then on an April 19th I thought that I was FINALLY DIVORCED after a three f$E7*ing year battle. Nightmares, anxiety, money, depression, relationships…. You’ll know what hell is like!
It still seems like hell some days, still dealing with my ex!
I wish someone had been there for me when I needed it. A divorce lawyer can only do so much. Divorce is really so much more than an just an attorney too.
First, some people should just learn to work out their differences and avoid the bullshit a divorce creates in your life.
Second, if you do get divorced, whether you think it will be pretty or not, be prepared with a stack of money and a great friend to pull the knife out of your back! I don’t know who will put it there, but most certainly someone will.
Third, know your enemy better than yourself. That other person who knows everything about you… ? Yeah, they know your buttons and most intimate details too. And, don’t fool yourself for a second thinking they won’t use it to get everything they want in court. Deserved or not!
I started the Divorce Mistakes Network seven years ago. We are the bridge between your problems today, and the knowledge from experts to fix them. Everything from learning how to save money on a divorce lawyer, or learning from the experts who can help you go back to living a normal life. Before, during or after this nightmare.
We’re about everything divorce. From preparation through healthy healing. This road… is a real shitty road to travel, especially when you’re traveling alone.